Roger Mellott speaks about stress management for professionals. He discusses the idea of having an “energy pie” and posits that some people wake up with an energy pie the size of a dinner mint and others wake up with an energy pie that is the size of a child’s swimming pool.
I take several lessons from this:
- We need to have the biggest energy pie possible;
- We need to be aware of where our energy pie goes;
- We need to avoid what I call “pie suckers.” You know what I mean….those people who just suck the life right out of you. There’s a sucking sound that you hear whenever they approach.
So, this week’s Keys to Keeping Chaos at Bay address how to deal with ‘pie suckers,” i.e., those people who are thieves of your energy.
- Know who your “pie suckers” are. Don’t make a list to post in your office, but know who they are.
- Avoid pie suckers whenever possible. Practice saying “Hello!” instead of “How are you?”
- Walk past pie suckers quickly (fast walking burns more calories, anyway).
- When asked if you “Have a minute?” the answer is “No.” You may smile and shake your head, but don’t give an inch.
- Be polite but distant. Don’t learn about your pie sucker’s illnesses, pets, in-laws, children, or work-out routine. Similarly, don’t share your own private information.
- Under no circumstances should you share a meal with your pie sucker. Even if it means sitting alone in your office at lunch, don’t chance it. (And a private lunch with you and your thoughts sounds pretty good, doesn’t it?)
- Do not feel obligated to give your pie sucker birthday or holiday cards or gifts. If your pie sucker gives these items to you, thank him/her. Refer to item #5.
- If you share office space with your pie sucker, rearrange the furniture so you don’t have to face him/her. Put up a partition if possible.
- Remember that pie suckers are stealing from you. This isn’t nice.
- High blood pressure is expensive. Is your pie sucker worth the price?
Please note: The moniker “pie sucker” applies *only* to one or two people in your life (at least I hope so). This isn’t the person who just sort of irritates you now and then or someone you just don’t care for. This is for the person that just drains your energy in ways that distinguish them from others. It’s sad to say, but usually when I talk about this in workshops, people know exactly what I’m talking about. If you have more than one or two pie-suckers, you may need to do some seriously re-thinking about your work or personal life and how this is happening.
Additional note: In all honesty, we are likely to be someone’s pie sucker, too. We should take a look at what people might find about us that just drains the life out of them. There’s room for growth in all of us.
And for strategies to maximize your positive energy and minimize your negative energy, then you will want to access the teleseminar Energy Charting: Quantify Your Value. All of the ideas in this class are offered with the intention of assisting you in your quest to have your energy, attitude, and direction fully focused on high-priority and high-value endeavors.